Comments on: Black women don’t give head, and other lessons learned from Essence http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/ Wed, 20 Aug 2008 10:23:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: mizzday http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-18694 mizzday Sun, 10 Sep 2006 23:26:03 +0000 http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-18694 you people are crazy if it where not for interracial relationships lighter skined people/mulattos would not even be here. how you people think light skinned people got here in thr frist place they did not come off the slave ships they came threw race mixin Dear Joe, I beg your pardon. I am of KHOISAN south african descent. We are the oldest race on the earth dating back to mitochondrial EVE. We are yellow skinned people and we have always been that way. Yes, mulattos wouldn't be here had it not been for race mixing. However, all light skinned people are not the result of race mixing. Study, homeboy and come back when you have a valid response. you people are crazy if it where not for interracial relationships lighter skined people/mulattos would not even be here.
how you people think light skinned people got here in thr frist place they did not come off the slave ships they came threw race mixin

Dear Joe,
I beg your pardon. I am of KHOISAN south african descent. We are the oldest race on the earth dating back to mitochondrial EVE. We are yellow skinned people and we have always been that way. Yes, mulattos wouldn’t be here had it not been for race mixing. However, all light skinned people are not the result of race mixing. Study, homeboy and come back when you have a valid response.

]]> By: ATR 32 - July 17, 2006 - Voicemail 206-203-3983 - addictedtorace@gmail.com at Addicted to Race http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-13228 ATR 32 - July 17, 2006 - Voicemail 206-203-3983 - addictedtorace@gmail.com at Addicted to Race Sat, 05 Aug 2006 16:11:50 +0000 http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-13228 [...] MIXED MEDIA WATCH NEWS UPDATE Jen discusses several recent news items: a controversial Sony PSP ad released in the Netherlands, the potential HBO comedy series that may arise from Angela Nissel’s Mixed: My Life in Black and White, and a recent Essence magazine article chock-full of stereotypes about interracial relationships. [...] […] MIXED MEDIA WATCH NEWS UPDATE Jen discusses several recent news items: a controversial Sony PSP ad released in the Netherlands, the potential HBO comedy series that may arise from Angela Nissel’s Mixed: My Life in Black and White, and a recent Essence magazine article chock-full of stereotypes about interracial relationships. […]

]]> By: How to give a blow job http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-12606 How to give a blow job Fri, 21 Jul 2006 04:11:13 +0000 http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-12606 I am not sure why the original writer questioned the “sterotype” that sucessful Black men date white women. It has been statistically proven time and time again. Now, I would add in that figure all other race women (not just white to make it most accurate) because the truth is sucessful (well educated & higher SES Black men) do dispportionantely date (and marry) more non-Black women that Black women. That is a fact… now I am not saying I know the Why to that question but it is a reality, from research I have done in undergrad and research I have continued to keep a breast of. ---- I think this is a really good point. My research has shown the same thing, actually. I am not sure why the original writer questioned the “sterotype” that sucessful Black men date white women. It has been statistically proven time and time again. Now, I would add in that figure all other race women (not just white to make it most accurate) because the truth is sucessful (well educated & higher SES Black men) do dispportionantely date (and marry) more non-Black women that Black women. That is a fact… now I am not saying I know the Why to that question but it is a reality, from research I have done in undergrad and research I have continued to keep a breast of.

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I think this is a really good point. My research has shown the same thing, actually.

]]> By: Mixed Media Watch - tracking media representations of mixed people http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-12150 Mixed Media Watch - tracking media representations of mixed people Mon, 17 Jul 2006 15:33:50 +0000 http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-12150 [...] MIXED MEDIA WATCH NEWS UPDATE Jen discusses several recent news items: a controversial Sony PSP ad released in the Netherlands, the potential HBO comedy series that may arise from Angela Nissel’s Mixed: My Life in Black and White, and a recent Essence magazine article chock-full of stereotypes about interracial relationships. [...] […] MIXED MEDIA WATCH NEWS UPDATE Jen discusses several recent news items: a controversial Sony PSP ad released in the Netherlands, the potential HBO comedy series that may arise from Angela Nissel’s Mixed: My Life in Black and White, and a recent Essence magazine article chock-full of stereotypes about interracial relationships. […]

]]> By: eric daniels http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-12116 eric daniels Sat, 15 Jul 2006 20:19:08 +0000 http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-12116 Shonda I don't get your logic either, There are only 275,000 Black Americans M&F married IR that breaks down to.... 141,000 BM 135,000 BF Married to men of various Races, I see black celebrities like the Miami Heat players and their black wives of all shades. My problem with BW and BM that they can't just say "I prefer dating across racial lines' without bashing their same race counterpart. I think there is hypocrisy on both sides when it comes to this issue, There are 38 million black people of African descent in this country there should be at least 5 million IR couples amongst Black Americans when there are in a population of 290 people there are only about 3 million Mixed couples not counting children. Shonda you are watching way too much reality Television as a wise sage named Prince Rogers Nelson once said, DON'T LET YOUR CHILDREN WATCH TELEVISON BECAUSE ALL THEY 'LL DO IS "FIGHT, CURSE AND BREED" Don't trust the entertainment industry for IR realtionships because it lies and Most successful Black Men are married to Black Women at a clip of 90 percent. Shonda I don’t get your logic either, There are only 275,000 Black Americans M&F married IR that breaks down to….

141,000 BM
135,000 BF

Married to men of various Races, I see black celebrities like the Miami Heat players and their black wives of all shades. My problem with BW and BM that they can’t just say “I prefer dating across racial lines’ without bashing their same race counterpart. I think there is hypocrisy on both sides when it comes to this issue, There are 38 million black people of African descent in this country there should be at least 5 million IR couples amongst Black Americans when there are in a population of 290 people there are only about 3 million Mixed couples not counting children.

Shonda you are watching way too much reality Television as a wise sage named Prince Rogers Nelson once said,

DON’T LET YOUR CHILDREN WATCH TELEVISON BECAUSE ALL THEY ‘LL DO IS “FIGHT, CURSE AND BREED”

Don’t trust the entertainment industry for IR realtionships because it lies and Most successful Black Men are married to Black Women at a clip of 90 percent.

]]> By: Merq http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-12104 Merq Sat, 15 Jul 2006 08:05:51 +0000 http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-12104 "Blasian." How decidedly cute. Shanda, my dear, I'm afraid you're using the same rhetoric that publications like Essence spew ad nauseum: "We blamed black men for dating outside their race. But now that we're doing it a lot more, we'd better find a way to blame that on him, too... or we'll be branded hypocrites." I wonder how your "Blasian" fiance would feel if he knew you were pretty-much saying the only reason you ended up with him was that you couldn't get an "all-black" man. I wish him all the luck in the world. “Blasian.” How decidedly cute.

Shanda, my dear, I’m afraid you’re using the same rhetoric that publications like Essence spew ad nauseum:

“We blamed black men for dating outside their race. But now that we’re doing it a lot more, we’d better find a way to blame that on him, too… or we’ll be branded hypocrites.”

I wonder how your “Blasian” fiance would feel if he knew you were pretty-much saying the only reason you ended up with him was that you couldn’t get an “all-black” man.

I wish him all the luck in the world.

]]> By: Shanda http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-12097 Shanda Sat, 15 Jul 2006 01:29:37 +0000 http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-12097 Just a personal note from real experiance the number of Black men with Higher SES are extremely lower that Black women of the same. Fir example you know that many more Black women go to college than Black men... and the higher you go in education the less you find. In my Graduate program (4 different tracks of about 210-230 students) there was 3 Black males. One gay, one married to a White woman, and only one single (of, course I snatched him up before the other plethora of other women could) but the reality is that as a Black woman you are much more unlikely to find a "equal" match thehigher up you go. My major professor (whom I worked under to study Black female/non-Black male relationships) Gave the same personal accounts (which is how we ended up studying this population in the first place). When she went to get her Ph.D there were 4 Black men in her program 3 maried/dating Non-Black women 1 single... but there were 16 Black women in the program... Just saying to claim that Black men really aren't marrying/dating non-Black women more (not more than they do Black) much more than their female counter parts is crap! * All I can say is that I decided long ago, not to let color/race/ethnicity limit my available options for finding a mate. I have dated Chinese, Korean, Cuban, South Asian Indians. I am an equal oppurtunity dater. The point of these IR articles geared for Black women should focus on how we often limit ourselves wating for the "right" Black man.... as I believe someone else already stated. Ps. my fiance is Blasian Korean and Black Just a personal note from real experiance the number of Black men with Higher SES are extremely lower that Black women of the same. Fir example you know that many more Black women go to college than Black men… and the higher you go in education the less you find. In my Graduate program (4 different tracks of about 210-230 students) there was 3 Black males. One gay, one married to a White woman, and only one single (of, course I snatched him up before the other plethora of other women could) but the reality is that as a Black woman you are much more unlikely to find a “equal” match thehigher up you go. My major professor (whom I worked under to study Black female/non-Black male relationships) Gave the same personal accounts (which is how we ended up studying this population in the first place). When she went to get her Ph.D there were 4 Black men in her program 3 maried/dating Non-Black women 1 single… but there were 16 Black women in the program…

Just saying to claim that Black men really aren’t marrying/dating non-Black women more (not more than they do Black) much more than their female counter parts is crap!

* All I can say is that I decided long ago, not to let color/race/ethnicity limit my available options for finding a mate. I have dated Chinese, Korean, Cuban, South Asian Indians. I am an equal oppurtunity dater. The point of these IR articles geared for Black women should focus on how we often limit ourselves wating for the “right” Black man…. as I believe someone else already stated.

Ps. my fiance is Blasian Korean and Black

]]> By: Shanda http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-12096 Shanda Sat, 15 Jul 2006 01:18:53 +0000 http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-12096 Bertie I misread... I will have to go pull research and come back with hard #'s. Just a side note... marriage doesn't always paint the whole picture... did you know in Califonia that there were more bi-racial/mutli-racial children born with one Black parent than from a Black male/Black female union... so a whole lot of Black men are not with Black women... just a side bar note though... I will come with the proof later =-P Bertie I misread… I will have to go pull research and come back with hard #’s.

Just a side note… marriage doesn’t always paint the whole picture… did you know in Califonia that there were more bi-racial/mutli-racial children born with one Black parent than from a Black male/Black female union… so a whole lot of Black men are not with Black women… just a side bar note though… I will come with the proof later =-P

]]> By: Shanda http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-12095 Shanda Sat, 15 Jul 2006 01:12:23 +0000 http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-12095 Bertie- Please tell me where you see that 90 something percent of Black men are married... heck I have never seen a % rate that high for any group in the US. Bertie- Please tell me where you see that 90 something percent of Black men are married… heck I have never seen a % rate that high for any group in the US.

]]> By: bertie http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-12080 bertie Fri, 14 Jul 2006 17:31:49 +0000 http://www.mixedmediawatch.com/2006/07/10/black-women-dont-give-head-and-other-lessons-learned-from-essence/#comment-12080 Hey Shanda--your logic seems to conflict with its self. If the higher SE black men are more likely to be married--and the overwhelming majority of married black men are married to black women (90 something percent according to the last census)--then how is it a FACT that the higher the SE the more likely a black man is to marry outside his race. When you say more likely--what do you mean?--more likely compared to who? Not more likely compared to other black married men since 90% are married to black women. Your logic seems inherently contradictory. Hey Shanda–your logic seems to conflict with its self. If the higher SE black men are more likely to be married–and the overwhelming majority of married black men are married to black women (90 something percent according to the last census)–then how is it a FACT that the higher the SE the more likely a black man is to marry outside his race. When you say more likely–what do you mean?–more likely compared to who? Not more likely compared to other black married men since 90% are married to black women. Your logic seems inherently contradictory.

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