” “hapactivist” who has proudly NEVER dated an APA male ” Nothing in the previoius posts shows any indication in PRIDE in not dating apa males.
Generalizations about APA political views maybe. “I have not met someone who shares x view” is not …”no body of this heritage has this view.”

Reading too much into posts can be deceptive

(I may be guilty of the same of course… self examination is the best medecine)

Try again.

Missing the point…aren`t ya

In my experience, in choosing a mate, a person of mixed heritage is told that s/he is choosing their ethnicity.

The above comment is a prime example. Not ending up with an asian man “of course” (sarcasm) means that you reject all asian men and your own “asianess”

This is quite nonsensical.

It’s because the women within those groups are extremely loyal and supportive of “their” men - and would rather resolve their conflicts internally than jump ship and watch it sink. No, a house divided cannot stand strong. Those other minority men are not unilaterally slammed by their ranks filled with White male supremacist autoracist female activists along the lines of Amy Tan, Maxine Hong Kingston, Kim Wong Keltner, etc etc etc…ad nauseum. They are not cornered and relentlessly put on the defensive and FORCED to fight for their own dignity - by their own sisters.

I mean, do you really think those ladies have nothing to bych about? 2/3 of Black babies are born to single moms now. Hip-hop - Black male youth culture - is overladen with gross chauvinism, misogyny and degradation of Black women/idealization of light women. Latinos are renowned for machismo paternalism and hypocritical sexual jealousy. Still, these women form the backbones of their communities and don’t claim victimhood as their way out of their athnic bases. Playing the victim card for empowerment and as excuses for your own self-serving behavior is NOT a “strong” woman’s tactic - but the WEAKEST.

Not to mention…few of those other minority activism groups are not self-serving like you accuse APA males as. NAACP and BLACK power groups - are mainly BBFB - HELLO? BLACK power??? And what about “La Raza?” (http://www.nclr.org/) FOR HISPANIC Americans…HELLO!

Fact is, if ASIAN MEN don’t stand up for themselves - NO ONE ELSE WILL - INCLUDING THEIR OWN SISTERS!

When you grow up one day - you will realize that your hatred for monoracial APA men is actually your own self-hatred of your Asian heritage projected upon others…but until then, keep rationalizing and denying it.

I’m NOT racist. It’s just that there are still monoracial male APAs who feel threatened by strong APA and hapa women. I’ve been an activist for years, and I still have yet to find an APA male who is really down for the collective cause. (eliminating ALL injustices toward all people of color, not just for one race/ethnicity)

Frankly, I think many so-called monoracial APA “progressives” subconsciously buy into the white liberal rhetoric, incapable of carving out their OWN identities instead of mainstream America dictating it. And you wonder why the APA movement hadn’t been as powerful (or productive) as the Chicana/o or Black Power movements….hell, even the multiracial movement’s done much more than monoracial APA movements…

And it’s because of my SOCIAL CIRCLES that I haven’t dated any APA’s or Pilipinos (I don’t regard the latter as APA, since we’re just “honorary” in that category and aren’t really respected within that umbrella term). Unless you can find me a very strong pan-Asian (read: militant) progressive movement to join, then I’ll find my alliances elsewhere.

Are you sure maybe YOU’RE not the racist, intolerant one then?

We’ve been ‘going on’ a lot longer than that.

I’m 34, and all of my -grandparents- are mixed race.

It of course, would be impossible for me to -not- be in an interracial relationship, even if I went for incest (not that I would mind you…) it would still be interracial.

People uptight over interracial mixing need to get over it. We are the future, and you can’t escape it. Escpecially in a ‘globalized’ world.

As for who we are, try being me and looking at those forms where the ‘Race’ entry says ‘check the ONE that applies’.

Heck, even if they say ‘check those that apply’ I can just circle the entire page… I’ve only seen ‘multiracial’ once on a form in 34 years…

The only response I usually give is that every single relationship I have been in /or will be in will be interracial…
that is unless I meet some really nice Dutch/tanzanian/syrian/haitian man. and even then:)

People of mixed heritage usually have no choice but to date interracially

So yes, even mixed people are NOT saved from the conflict that arises in interracial relationships.