Racist-seperatist-evil monsters, but it is quite ok for black women to marry who ever they feel like because all they have to do is say how they were abused by a blackman and every one will accept it.

Black men, do what your heart tells you and dont be guilted into marrige that will effect the rest of your life.

And yes I am an African American male.Twice married to African American females.

BTW, you couldn’t find a “square” black woman like yourself?

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I got called a square or an oreo and such by own too. Does that mean I’m going to simply write them off as being ignorant and not to be dealt with? No. We need one another man. How do any brothas and sistas out there expect change to happen in our communities, if we keep dishing out hate and stereotypes? There won’t be. We are a lost people, and we truly believe that having hate in our hearts for each other because we have been done wrong will make us feel better. This type of behavior needs to end today. Most black children grow up without a father figure in the home. People in America today are giving their bodies to any and everyone because it’s the cool thing to do. It is more expected of you to have sex than to maybe graduate from high school or college. Maybe if black children were taught to value their bodies, as well as their parents who know better we wouldn’t have so many broken families.

You also stated you can’t find most black women who don’t have kids out of wedlock. Women of all races can have kids out of wedlock and they do. You don’t know what situation those black women were in. Some could have been wild, while a few others could have been raped and kept their babies. For you to pass judgement on a whole group of women you probably don’t even associate with shows how immature you really are. It takes two to make a baby. A black woman can’t come up with a secret formula for sperm, impregnate herself, and then decide to birth that child. She needs a male to help her create that new life. So if you’re going to talk trash, make sure you do it for both sides of the gender spectrum. I don’t hate you at all, but black men like you will never EVER get to know me period. I can’t talk to someone who can’t even stand black women, and I’m a black woman myself. And I know if I cam on this board stating that MOST black men were in prison, gay, on the down low, irresponsible and dead beat dads, uneducated, always selling drugs, horny dogs, liars, cheaters, gold-diggers[yes man can be that type as well], and a bunch of other negative crap you would get angry. I would probably have most of the black men, and probably mixed race men commenting negatively. But I would never classify most black men as anything that they may not be. I wouldn’t come on this board stereotyping and making wide generalizations because of 6 or 7 black men I knew. It’s a waste of time and energy.

I tend to think that if all black american women, african women, and other women of african descent were to up and disappear of the face of the earth, most black men wouldn’t care. And maybe some black women would feel the same if it were black american and african men disappearing. But if both disappeared, there would be no black race. There would be no one for the spiteful ones to bicker at about every flaw others have. But I think we are already disappearing from this earth in anyway. The same mentality us black americans have here, is beginning to destroy people over in the motherland[africa for those who don’t know]. Many of us don’t know where we come from, who we are, believe that any mate other than black will solve our problems or in some cases make us happy, and believe we that we have a justifiable right to hate or dislike a person instead of the behavior because of what happened to you years before. We’ll probably be gone pretty soon, and I’m not trying to be negative here either. I just don’t see black people coming together anytime soon because we hate each other too much. Everything Malcom, Martin, Marcus, Ida, and other strong black leaders fought for has went down the drain. Would brotha Malcom say the things a lot of these brothas say today about black women and the black race? Probably not in the same context, but he also wouldn’t put down his own race of women if he were trying to enlighten them either.

I know I typed a lot, but I had much to say. I don’t care about interracial relationships anymore. I have realized that the black man stopped loving the black woman long before IRs were becoming much accepted. I have also realized the black woman has also given up on the black man as well. We have just given up on each other. But you know what, if you’re happy so be it. Just keep your negative comments to yourself. I hate so much when black folks date interracially and spread that same hatred to their non-black mates and biracial kids. It is sickening. How can you say you don’t like racism, but you’re feeding the same poison to your mate and kids? Hate is a VERY strong word, but that is how I feel. Don’t cry racism when you’re telling your mate and kids that black men are dumb ass niggas, or black women are all gold-digging hos. I would never do that. And I know some do though. I don’t care what any of you say. To this world black folks are still dumb nigger monkeys who can’t do for themselves. We are still viewed as inferior. Some people forget where they come from, and when they get called a stupid nigger all of a sudden they are reminded again. It’s too late to change the minds of adults who are set in their ways, but it’s not too late for children. So for those who want to see the stupid crap black folks do to each other end, we need to work on the minds of the kids first. I’m out. Peace.

Black women in general are classless, angry, bitchy, and almost always carrying emotional baggage. Finding one without illigit kids is near impossible. So when a black male achieves success (generally through hard work, conservative outlook on life and not adhereing to the African American culture of failure) he wants to marry/ start a family with someone of the same ideology as himself. That ideology is oftentimes ridiculed as “acting white” or “being an Uncle Tom”. In search of a stable drama free family life, these successful men often turn to women of the white, asian or hispanic cultures. Cultures that have strong family values and respect the man of the family. Things that the black “community” have totally discarded while embracing the world of “baby daddies”, consumer driven lifestyles and general lack of morals or self discipline. Disclosure: I am a black male MBA who date asian/ latina women only because I’ve been deemed “square”, “acting white” or “an Uncle Tom” by black women.