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1. Damie wrote:

   I’m surprised you two Eurasian girls are not rolling your eyes at that.

   Posted 24 May 2005 at 3:42 pm ¶

2. Mike wrote:

   I’m black/male. I think you asian guys should go w/ black chicks.
   Reason:
   Since most of the black guys are going out w/the white chicks, I figure since the women are “deserted” you can hook up w/them. I just think your kids will look like this:

   http://www.hapaclub.org/images/amerie_whiteoutft.jpg

   well that’s all I gotta say. You’ll be suprised how many black chicks like asian guys.

   Posted 09 Jul 2005 at 12:46 pm ¶

3. the hip hapa wrote:

   If “full” Asian men didn’t have a Confucian patriarchal (read: sexist) mindset, Asian womyn would be able to find a decent Asian man.

   Until that day comes, more power to interracial dating! Remember, respect that person for who they are, not because they encompass some sort of exoticism and perpetuate some sort of sexual stereotype.

   Posted 18 Jul 2005 at 2:21 am ¶

4. AsianGuyHatesBS wrote:

   i would like to respond to the “the hip hapa’s ” comment. asian men being sexists is a bs reason and it is used again and again by asian women to mask the real reason why they date white guys. your comment may be true in the old country, but what generation are you from?

   emotionally, asian american-born men are as capacable as white men, if not more caring. so, please don’t give me this bs crap about asian men are sexists.

   Posted 26 Sep 2005 at 1:00 am ¶

5. Eric wrote:

   This is the funniest shit ever.

   Posted 29 Nov 2005 at 3:56 pm ¶

6. Str8 Records wrote:

   “your comment may be true in the old country”

   Well, but the old country also had its own system of gender checks & balances. But, culturally-illiterate American-supremacist feminists like ‘hipocritical hapa’ just take singular aspects out of context to make it look wholly unfair.

   But, the reality is - in traditional Asia, men are BURDENED with most all the responsibility (only viewed as “power” by feminists).

   Traditionally, sons are the ones responsible for protecting country (military is all-male), family (taking in their parents in their old age, caring for his wife’s family and of course providing for their own as well) and themselves dead last.

   Asian men are simply mules born to pull loads*. That’s why every family wants one - they are indentured slaves and retirement plans all rolled into one. Meanwhile, the daughters don’t have any of those obligations or responsibilities. *Contrast this to your average “enlightened” American playboys here whose top priorities typically include PS2, ESPN, booze and gettin laid…

   So yes, “mainland Asian sexism” is mostly just a poor excuse for colonial White male fetishism.

   Fact is, most other races are FAR more sexist/chauvinistic/machismo than Asian men. But, you don’t hear “their” women using that as red herring excuses to worship White men:
   http://www.xanga.com/mixedmediawatch/168645650/item.html

   Cuz once we get past all the lip service/idle rhetoric and examine the actual record, we can see where the real behaviors lie. And Asia is far ahead of America in REAL measurable respect for women:

   China had its first female emperor, Wu Zetian, well over a millenia ago.
   Lu Hsiu-lien became Taiwan’s first female vice-president in 2000.
   Sirimavo Bandaranaike became prime minister of Sri Lanka in 1960.
   Corazon Aquino was President of the Philippines.
   Megawati Sukarnoputri became president of Indonesia in 2001.
   Sheik Hasina Wazed & Khaleda Zia were also both prime ministers of Bangladesh.
   Benazir Bhutto the same in Pakistan.
   Indira Gandhi was twice prime minister of India. Sonia Gandhi later declined the same position.
   Etc etc etc.

   Posted 19 Dec 2005 at 9:37 am ¶

7. Tom Selleck wrote:

   Mr. Baseball was a great movie. Asians love me.

   Posted 09 Jan 2006 at 1:40 am ¶

8. Penelope wrote:

   Why don’t Asian men approach non-asian woman. I love Asian men and they seem to be run away from western girls

   Posted 16 Jan 2006 at 5:47 pm ¶

9. asian dad wrote:

   Things are changing. This Bitter Asian site is funny, but no longer so true. My son is full Asian, but third generation here in the US. His dating life is amazing. Girls of all races are calling all the time, and not just for help with their homework.

   BitterAsianGuy would classify him as a Twinkie. Yellow on the outside, white on the inside.

   I’ve analyzed this quite a bit in my mind. I was “Bitter Asian Guy-Twinkie combo” all my pre-married life. Couldn’t buy a date. I was sure I would die a virgin. Well into my late 20’s, I graduated and found my lovely “twinkie” Asian wife, and created a “twinkie child.”

   I told the tales of my dating (or lack of dating)horrors to my son and his response is “Sounds like you were a nerd.” To him, my “unattractiveness”, was nothing about being Asian, but was all about lack of confidence. He is comfortable in looking different, but he is pretty much able to fit in with any racial crowd. He is well respected, a good athlete, near the top of his class, and very popular. I would describe him as “All-American” except he has slanty eyes and eats rice.

   BitterAsianGuy spends too much time lamenting his “Condition” instead of believing in himself.

   Posted 29 Jan 2006 at 3:21 am ¶

10. Mel wrote:

    There is hope for all of you! I’m a 32 year old “white girl” from Australia and I have a huge crush on a Chinese guy.

    I don’t want to get into a detailed discription about myself but I am constantly told that I am beautiful etc. Just pointing out that I am not a “ugly, fat, white chick”, but a girl who gets a lot of attention and comments.

    Anyway I think many females are starting to become sick and tired of “white” guys and all the crap they put us through. To say they are the most selfish jerks on the planet is a huge understatement!!!

    I met my “crush” a few weeks ago and he is the one I can see myself spending the rest of my life with. Being with him would guarantee he would never cheat on me, lie to me, steal from me, disrespect me, family & friends. in other words…”perfect”. and this perfection will last for ever.

    I don’t think I will be traded in on a younger model half my age when he goes through a supposedly “mid-life-crisis”.

    So all you out there who think you don’t have a chance in hell, my advise is just be yourself.

    Nice guys…are sexy guys!!!

    Posted 09 Feb 2006 at 12:19 am ¶

11. Jasmine wrote:

    I am a Black female who loves Asian guys ever since i was eight. I lived in Japan for a while and now i think out of every man in the world none are as appealing or attractive or even as charming as an Asian man is. I Know that I should stop but i have to make this known. I cant resist the hair the way you guys smile. The hair wow i wish i had the hair. how the eyebrows follow the conture of the face. Especially the way the hair grows on the chin. Don’t forget about the way you speak and sing. I could listen to this for hours each accent is awesome and gives me goose bumps.

    I am soo sorry that some of you dont like who you are I guess every culture has that. Always remeber to be proud of who you are and are becomming no matter what the outside is the inside can only truly be changed by your own oppinions.

    Thanks
    Jas

    Posted 10 Feb 2006 at 1:25 am ¶

12. Lauren wrote:

    ok, stop crying guys! there are plenty of white chicks, asian chicks, (whatever) that want asian guys. all i date is asian men. i’m white, i love asian guys! so stop crying and start searching for the girls that want you! they are all over, you just have to look!

    ~Lauren

    Posted 18 Feb 2006 at 3:47 pm ¶

13. Lauren wrote:

    Str8 Records:

    I agree with you about the whole “Asian culture surpassing American culture” and also on the level of Asian men treating their women better then white boys. I have experienced that first hand. That’s why I like Asian men better then white guys (well, there are more reasons then that). I do realize the burden of an Asian male in the family/working roll. My boyfriend works 12 hours a day 5-6 days a week to provide for himself, help me out (when I need it. I do work but do not make all that much as my schedule varies), and help his family when they need him. He takes it upon himself everyday to work as hard as he can, so in the long run, we’ll have something nice to fall back on.

    Posted 18 Feb 2006 at 3:58 pm ¶

14. French Chocolate wrote:

    I say, I have to agree with Mike, because I know alot of black women who like asian men, especially me!!

    Posted 22 Feb 2006 at 5:18 pm ¶

15. Raisin wrote:

    Lauren,I only wish my girlfriend could see what you see in (most) asian men. I’m Chinese male and having a long distance relationship with an Aussie girl. I hate to say this but cultural differences sometimes can have an effect on relationships mostly in a bad way.We are both in our mid 30s and we are looking to take our relationship to the next level after dated for a year and half now. Our last holiday was in Dec’05 in Thailand and eveything went superbly well…until she suggested that I should come meet her folks in person.But there is only one problem, I don’t live in Australia, but Malaysia..eventhough distance has never been much of a problem for me…so recently she asked that I move to OZ to start a life with her. I work easily 10-15 hrs daily becos my proffesion is such (advertising) and my other half works 9-5 and with the time zone difference obviously it hasn’t helped when it comes to catching up daily on the phone…so moving to OZ might be a good thing to do. So I put in my resignation and took on a 3 month contractual agreement sitead with the (same) company and with a better pay package thinking that I would need the extra $ when i get to OZ. But to my supprise, my other half thinks that I took on the contract becos I had to have the money and had chosen money over her. hmmm? So she blamed me for delaying my trip by 3 months and for that she had to go back to her ex-b/friend. Im pure bred Chinese, money may not be everything, but without money you can have nothing. Yes, it is still my responsibility to look after my folks mentally, physically and financially. All i wanted to do was to stay financially stable when we are together and not create any uneccesary worry in our relationship. Its not like we have a full proof relationship going anyway..yet i was still willing to take the chance. Its definately culture differences here. Sorry If I too long-winded

    Posted 01 Mar 2006 at 5:40 am ¶

16. Senkeh wrote:

    Amen, French Chocolate!!! Moi aussi!!!

    Posted 11 Apr 2006 at 3:16 pm ¶

17. Danielle wrote:

    I have to agree with Jasmine on this one. I really dig asian men. Well, I like all races of men. Other forums just wine on how asian guys like this and taking a black girl home to meet the parents, and yada yada. Well, I’m sure a person’s parents may have something to do with their significant other. My parents do not care what race a man is, that I may meet. As long as he is good to me and makes me happy. And to jasmine again, I so know what you mean about their hair. It’s so gorgeous how black it is, straight and flowing in the wind, and shiny it is, but don’t get me wrong. Hair isn’t the major reason why I am attracted to someone! lol. Well, I don’t care what people think about me liking men of another race, the main people who say to me, ” Are you crazy?” for liking someone out of my race, is because they are not open to alot of things as I am. I live in Michigan, so I really don’t get a chance to be around alot of asians, but some. I don’y know if I will meet someone that shares me background. I’m a black muslim woman, so I’m not sure if I will get a chance to be different in seeing someone of the other race, but oh well. If it is meant to be, it should happen. My man for right now is COLLEGE. Oh boy, I hope this forum isn’t too old to post on this topic lol!

    Posted 14 May 2006 at 6:38 pm ¶

18. Passively Sad wrote:

    Im a Singaporean guy, and so far, I have not had any luck on relationships since the day i was borned. First of all, there are many nice girls out there, many who looks out for asian men and stuff, but ow many of them actually look beyond their physical looks? When girls look at guys, the least they want their datable type would either be someone filthy rich, someone with looks like a westerner or someone with the build of a westerner? I do not look like jet lee nor jackie chan, nor am i borned physically strong(i have a congenital heart disease), but i do not let these bring me down in whatever i do. But girls, both asian and western, classify me as someone non-datable when they first see me. I am not even given a chance to show them what type of character I really am. Can that be counted as being fair? Girls bang on looks nowadays, thus the “bitter asian men” site,in summary, could have said girls prefer them as they have more of the “perfect” looks.

    Now heres evidence. I know of 3 cases, of people relatively close to me, that have suffered due to the wrong choice. The similar thing is that, they have chosen someone that is said as “hot and handsome”, and after that,got abused(physically, verbally, mentally).

    In summary, not all asian guys are good. Highly westernised asian guys have a higher probability to mistreat their loved ones, and nice girls tend to pick someone that can make their life a living hell, by going for looks

    Posted 24 May 2006 at 10:22 pm ¶

19. Andrew Chang wrote:

    Asian men keep your head up and focus on God and you will be alright. I’m black with Chinese in me and proud of both and I think you should be proud of being Asian and a female will come along just be patient, Asian girls turn their backs on you that means they don’t love themselves. That’s all I have to say there are black and Indian chicks hopefully that are interested or whoever just keep your head lifted to God Jesus the Messiah he makes everything alright. Pray to God for a help mate He will provide.

    Posted 06 Aug 2006 at 10:29 pm ¶

20. Armani wrote:

    Look guys! Just let love happen naturally, dontgo out looking for a particular race, just think about what you have to offer whoever comes along. I am all for interracial couples. MY mum is Jamaican with a little cuban, and my dad is Gujrati, I am Blasian, mixed race, and I would not be here today if it was not for their disregard of prejudice.

    I am dark skinned with asian eyes and thick jet black mixed hair, and I love it. You need to be happy with who you are and stop blaming women! at the end of the day it may just be that your lady for life is in the making. I am married to a Jamaican man with some maroonian in him, but the most important thing to me was finding someone who loved me for me, not what tjeir children would look like, based on my hair and eyes. Just to let you know, we Blasians have our insecurities too! and Mixed persons

    Posted 14 Aug 2006 at 12:10 pm ¶

21. km wrote:

    All these comments are interesting. But I have to say when I go out and about and see couples, most Asian women are with Asian men. It is once in a while you might see an interacial couple but not as often as people choosing someone similar to their own race. That is why this website is good for us mixed folks.
    As for halfys article-he has a sense of humour and I think that is very attractive in a person. And also confidence is really important as mentioned by ‘asian dad’. We should all try to get along. However I have to say being a half asian/caucasian female or ‘halfy’ I find it hard to find the male version of me. Are they hiding? Are they biologically less common??????

    Posted 16 Aug 2006 at 5:45 am ¶

22. km wrote:

    Actually I’ve just finished reading a book called ‘Mao’s Last Dancer’ by Li Cunxin. It is the autobiography of a male Chinese ballet dancer. He eventually marries a caucasian Australian ballet dancer. It’s a really good read.

    Posted 16 Aug 2006 at 6:16 am ¶

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