I’m not saying that there aren’t problems in the supply of available black men, certainly there are, and there are alot of issues we have to address in our communities. The notion of an angry black woman at home alone waiting for a decent black man, feeling left out because “all ” the “good black men” are dating white girls is attractive to the media, and its attractive to a certain segment of the population who resents the strengths of black women in general.

Most couples that i know, black couples that is, are black men and white women. Yes i have seen and met a few blacks who are interracially married but for the most part, thats not the case. Not to say there is anything wrong with interracial dating and marriage, there isn’t but let’s just be honest here about the reality of the situation. Most black women are not “alone” and at home cursing every black man/white woman couple they see. For our part, we are a very diverse group of women with lots of different opinions and backgrounds. The sisters that i know have confessed to me, the problem isnt that black men are dating white women. It’s that why are we being denigrated in the process?

If a black man chooses to do so, thats fine, but to drag down every black woman out there isn’t. So when brothers say i date white women “because…black women are this and that” here lies the crux of a real problem. anyone with good sense of self would not choose a partner on that criteria. I have dated men of other races, but I have never made it a priority to say hey im dating you because black men are this or that.. get my point.

“interracial” dating shouldnt be this big of a deal, bu the very term interracial goes to show u the mindset of people. the race theory is completely overblown and it all boils down to economics and status, and here in America we know what that means. White skin is associated with money,power etc. and as the colors trangress, that image becomes less favorable, thats the real problem.

There really is no need to be hated. Get over it because you got it good if you look at american history. And maybe they only concentrated on minorities because white people have enough shows on tv as it is. W@hat they say on the show doesnt have to apply to you or your stepfather so forget about it

P.S. Think About It.

Before we all run out and see the movie lets take an indebt look at this phenomenon let us just agree that there are many reasons for this black men shortage. Even if we don’t take into account the mass starvation, slavery, genocides, AIDS and disease epidemics happing on a global scale and the effect that has on the black family structure it is still safe to say that good men are hard to find, much less, good black men.

The black men shortage is very apparent even to people outside the black community, I was speaking with a friend the other day when she said to me. “You know what I’ve been seeing a lot lately?” and I replied “what?” and she said “black women with white men” as we gazed over at a seemly happy couple walking in the park, the woman was what we identify as black and the man was white. I found this an odd observation coming from a woman of Korean origin. This phenomenon is probably more noticeable with so called “black” and “white” couples but is even more widespread when Asian among other nationalities are considered. When I interviewed women of non-black racial make-up the most common response was that they did not purposely seek out black men but that black men liked them.

Let me elaborate, according to the Journal of Blacks in Higher Education “60 percent of African-American males who enter high school in ninth grade do not graduate”. In major cities, such as Chicago and New York, the black male high school graduation rate is even worse with only 30 percent of black males completing their high school diploma. In small cities, such as Cleveland and Cincinnati, Ohio, less than one in five black males gets his high school diploma. The high school graduation rate is consistently at lest 10% higher for black females and going into college the enrollment rate is again consistently 10% higher for black females than black males.

These black males that do not graduate from high school fall victim to any number of things from dead-end jobs, to imprisonment, to drugs, whatever the reasons they then become disqualified from the already slim population of “good” black men that advance through the levels of society.

It is accepted that college educated people make up the first echelon of the successful population in America. When 10% (approx.) less black males enroll in college than black females it drastically affects the disparity between the pool of potential black men for black women. Then the number of black females graduating college is also approximately 10% greater than the number of black males graduating from college. So we find that by age 22-24 there is already a 30% shortage of qualified black males to service a growing pool of successful black females.

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Pool of Qualified Black males/////////Pool of Qualified Black Females
-10% High Scholl drop out/////////////+10% high school grads
-10% College enroll///////////////////+10% college enrollments
-10% No Degree////////////////////////+10% college graduates
-corporate drop outs//////////////////+ corporate success
= At least a -30% deficit/////////////=At least a +30% surplus
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Entering the work force we find that corporate America dominated by White males considers black males to be their arch nemesis (see: Charles Barkely’s new book “Who is Afraid of the Big Black Man”). So we find that there is an organic threat felt by corporate America of black males and this is perpetuated by the media. As a result black males are forced to conform to a culture that is against them some black males attempt to diminish their presences or agree to a more servitude role in order to come off less threatening and gain some level of success. While other black males refuse to put up with that type of treatment and quickly hit the glass ceiling. Some black males at this level decide to leave corporate America and try things on their own only to find hard times, that may take some time and effort to overcome. Those that do overcome hard times to reach success on their own, join the small pool of qualified black males who can move on to the next level of society.

Recently, I took a count at the 59th Street, Lexington train station in New York City at rush hour where I observed for a period of about 20 minuets. I counted men and women who would be considered black by appearance and who where obviously communting from work. I counted 14 black men and 38 black women communting from work within that 20 minute period on that day.

The small pool of black males that succeed without a high school diploma + the small amount with corporate success + the small amount with entrepreneurial success = A Still very small pool of qualified black men.

Black females on the other hand, while still greeted with some resistance in the corporate world are viewed as less threatening or they are more willing to put up with a little mal treatment in order to reach their ultimate goal of success. So you find especially in this current generation more and more black females finding success in the corporate world. These successful black women are then left at the alter waiting for a suitable black man to join them, only to find that the pool of qualified black men pale in comparison to the larger pool of black women who qualified to move up to the next level of society.

Based on the women I have interviewed for this article the majority of black women say that a black man would be their first choice when choosing a mate. I have found that many black women feel frustrated, some feel angry, some have become complacent with the idea that they do not need a man, while others keep hope alive.

Complicating matters even more is the effect the dis-qualified pool of black men or “losers” have on the entire process. The so called “loser” black men becomes overly aggressive and openly harasses the successful black woman, much to her dismay, she then ignores and shuns all black men who attempts to court her and in the process misses opportunities with qualified black men.

The small pool of relatively successful black men who qualify to reach this level of society find that they have a large pool of qualified black women to choose from and so they feel no rush to choose. These privileged black men feel content to “play the field”, most of these men will eventually get married and settle down but for right now they enjoy the abundance of beautiful, educated and available black women. Some black men feel mistreated by black women before they became successful and so now they exclusively date women of non-black origins. The problem seems to be that many black women do not look for the ingriedients that make a successful man such as inteligence, drive, determination, ambition and so forth, instead many black women tend to look for the finished product i.e. nice car, beautiful house, expensive jewelry and so on. Not to mention the even larger pool of available women from other nationalities who also begin to notice these newly qualified black men. Making things even more lopsided is the growing population of openly gay black men. America has become a dream land for successful, straight black men who enjoy the low supply and high demand for themselves of adoring women from all backgrounds.

Many of the women I interviewed feel angry when the see women of other nationalities “stealing” from the small pool qualified black men remaining. Many more are frustrated with the unwillingness of black men to only be with one woman at a time. Others have opened up to the possibility of men from other nationalities. Some black women have become turned off from men all together and now turn to lesbianism as an alternative to loneliness. A few black women are even willing to knowingly share their man with another woman under certain circumstances. The latest trend for some black women who can afford it, has become frequent trips to Europe where they feel more appreciate and get much more attention from European men than they receive at home.

The black men shortages have prompted black women such as Monique Jellerette deJongh and Cassandra Marshall Cato-Louis to right books like: How to Marry A Black Man. That explores a whole slue of tips for black women to find a black man. All in all, it boils down to simple supply and demand i.e. when oil supply is high, prices are low and when oil supply is low, gas prices are high and until the pool of qualified black men vs. black women even-out somewhat, black men will continue to enjoy a surplus of women. However, a bit of investigation into the issue will relieve some of the frustration felt by black women about the shortage and may even help them to make adjustments if it is a black man they desire to have.

Sounds more like Racist-O-Rama…

Well, liberals tend to function as power-hungry (self-empowering) weak parasites leeching off a (power-conserving) conservative host - until they suck it dry of its power and eventually become that host.

Fascism (eg - Nazism) typically starts off as a left-leaning working class movement that morphs into right-wing conservatism once it gains state power.

Neo-cons today were also formed by ex-liberals merging with filthy rich conservatives.

Will historically racially-oppressed Black men now also become the neo-racists of tomorrow?